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Going Through It

Advice on work, parenting, relationships and mental health from someone who has failed spectacularly (and also succeeded) at all four.

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‘How Do I Stop Dating Men Who Are Bad for Me?’

 You need to vent to a roomful of strangers. I know just the place. By Emily Gould

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    ‘I Resent My Parents for Not Helping Me Buy a Home’You need to meet more of the many, many people in this city who will never own their apartments.
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    ‘Why Does My Boyfriend Always Choose His Friends Over Me?’Someone who refuses to make plans with you just in case his bros want to hang out isn’t worth your time.
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    ‘How Do I Find Child Care Without Losing My Mind?’The system needs to change, and while it’s our responsibility to work to change it, we don’t need to feel bad about ourselves in the process.
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