How To Raise A Boy

“You just have to be a lot more careful. I wouldn’t approach someone on campus and just say ‘Hey,’ and start talking. My friends don’t either.”

“Sometimes my friends are like ‘DO IT! She wants it!’ And I’m like … does she really want it? Or are you just saying that?”

Today’s cultural icons, political leaders, and tech moguls, captured in their early years.

As his father was growing weaker, Davey needed to feel strong. Tough jocks were what was required, not a mother’s smoothing and curating.

What does it mean to be a boy? If you ask them they’ll tell you, and their answers will be complex.

I have no illusion that taking away his guns is a game-changing heroic act: Toxic masculinity lies in constant wait for my boy. But I have no regrets.

What surprised me after a year-and-a-half spent interviewing young men was how often they brought up their own experience of unwanted sex.

My father wrestled, watched football, and played basketball with me and my sister. He also taught us to want things, to want to win.

Four perspectives on stereotypes, diversity, police, fear, and expectations.

Reflections of a video-game kid turned video-game dad.

Five perspectives on stereotypes, diversity, police, fear, and expectations.

There’s a testosterone overload in my house.

“The experience was an eye-opener. It taught me not to mess with women anymore.”

About Chloe Kim, Dude Perfect, Tiger Parents, and our own family.

Proving that we are “real men” to other men sometimes requires us to do the wrong thing. We can teach our boys to do better.

I live in dread of what one of my colleagues once described to me as the “silent years,” when boys descend into an impenetrable muteness.

From infancy to adolescence.

Six perspectives on violence, parents, play, rage, fear, and intimacy.

The masculine scripts of previous generations seem especially problematic today, in a world run by the aggressive and the bullying.

A father talks to his teenage son and his three friends about the film’s resonance, black masculinity, and the importance of representation.

“Sometimes we’re going to be awkward. Sometimes we’re going to be mean. We’re not trying to be.”

How much about violence do I want him to understand?

“I don’t think anyone completely fits in to a gender role.”